23 Life Lessons You Get From Working At A Restaurant

Thought Catalog

1. If you don’t have a thick skin and complete abandonment of political correctness, don’t go near the kitchen. You will immediately learn there that what you consider to be off-limits is just the baseline of someone else’s sense of humor.

2. Bad tippers are the worst kinds of people, and are often terrible in many other ways than just being cheap.

3. Correction, the worst people are those who don’t tip or tip very badly, and accompany their financial insult with a snarky note left on the receipt.

4. The pain of a bad seating chart is a real one, and not a single customer will care or understand that you got slammed while someone else is totally dead.

5. The difference between the people who have never worked in food service, and the people who have, is always clearly visible. And a lot of time it has to…

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Rule #9 Be The Bigger Person

Eventually you will run into your ex, it is inevitable. You know you shared interests and that at some point it was bound to happen that you would run into them doing one of those things.  It seems to happen mostly with those you don’t care to see. It is with these that you should take extra care if you harbor resentment it is impossible to lead a functional successful life. Sure there is the instant gratification but do you really want to be known as the crazy ex that chased them down the road or out of the store?

The ex of mine that inspired writing these rules happened to walk into my work the other day. I didn’t even notice him come in; I was too busy enjoying my work.  I saw the back of his neck and I thought “please don’t be you”, then he turned around. You know that moment you realize it’s them and you can’t believe it, yup happened to me. I had the line from Casablanca slightly altered “Of all the, art stores in all, the world you had to walk into mine”.   There are many things I could have said or done because he hurt me pretty bad with the way things ended, even when it’s partially my fault too. I was very tempted however; I didn’t do any of it I just smiled, said hello and continued about my business.

The reason is I realized I did the best I could with the cards dealt to me and I have nothing to feel ashamed about. I cannot move on or hope to have a good relationship if I hurt those around me, even if certain others feel a “bitch” moment was necessary.  I felt great after like the hugest weight had been lifted. Being the bigger person can truly make you feel like a million bucks, personally I think that is a better feeling than being known as the Exacto wielding crazy art gallery ex. So take that hurt, sadness, anger or resentment and use that energy in a more positive channel. I can vouch for it feeling fantastically gratifying in the long run.

Rule #8 Don’t Be clingy unless acting like clingwrap in the bedroom

Hey We all get this way sometimes when something bad happens or when establishing a relationship.  The ONLY acceptable clinginess is acting like cling wrap or playtime with cling wrap in certain areas of a relationship. We want the person we care about to know what the firetruck is going on in our lives. This can be seen as creepy and trust me I have been on both sides of this so I know all too well. I don’t have a story per say for this one at this point but I do have a few pointers.  near the end of a relationship we want to hang on because we don’t want it to end but this can actually facilitate is failure because of the lack of mystery.  I was in a relationship for 6 years and it came to a point where I was spending all my time at home with him and I was getting frustrated.

When he or she has done something you disagree with don’t just jump to their side of things. YOU ARE entitled to your own opinion and if they disagree with you then so be it. That is part of life you are not always going to agree with each other. Its how you work with the disagreements that establish how your relationship goes.

DONT spend every waking hour texting or calling each other. While this may seem sweet at first it is way too much when getting to know each other. While life is short there is plenty of time to get to know one another unless I guess you have a terminal illness than by all means go for it.Go get yourself a hobby be outspoken in local politics find a part-time job go back to school find something to occupy some of that time. Also if they are worth your time they might actually join you at some point in these activities well minus working at the same place. Also if in a Relationship this can go one of two ways it can make you stronger or it can kill it.  With mine it killed it because I fond something I loved more than him and life itself MUSIC.

So remember to not lose you and if you have lost yourself take a good hard look at what you want.

AN extension to Rule #4 BE HONEST

Well maybe I am just crazy at this point.  I was seeing a guy that pointed out a picture of another girl he was dating and called her his 14-year-old niece. OF course being the trusting and DEFINITELY not in a committed relationship I go by that.  When Establishing a relationship its okay to see other people you need to be honest about this okay well maybe not who you are seeing but if caught looking at photos of the other girl don’t call them a family member.  A mutual friend of mine and the girl brought her up in conversation so of course I asked a question. He stuck to his guns on it so I asked the girl. AM I Crazy for calling the guy on this and telling the girl of his lie who as it turns out is a Single mom in her mid 20’s?

I didn’t feel it was wrong and if given the chance I would probably do it the same way all over again. Maybe being my age and not wanting anyone to get hurt this may have been seen as meddling but I can’t sit idly by and see someone else get hurt by lies. I have this simple belief of HONESTY. So when did this become such a rarity to be straight with someone?

 

Rule #7 Dont bring Gifts

Now Boys and girls this may seem pretty straight forward to not do. Its kind of like saying im free woohoo here is a gift to celebrate my freedom from you. Yes everyone has a different ending some may even exchange gifts but do you really want to look at that watch or jacket and think about that person?

My own experience with this was quiet confusing  I was brought cake. But hell it was cake. How can one say no to cake? If it had candles I might have been more concerned. A worse or better depending on your viewpoint is a story a girlfriend of mine shared. The girl had cheated on the guy (which I don’t agree with but stuff happens) he found out about it before she could tell him.  I’m guessing he felt hurt and devised a romantic evening to breakup with her. This involved flower petals and cut flowers leading to her car ending  with a note that I don’t feel comfortable repeating the exact words. So I will just say he told her to get lost in a not very nice way. This may have forever ruined flowers for her however; Giving  cut flowers upon breaking up with them kind of makes sense though in a crazy way. Think about the flowers are going to die anyways just like the relationship did,so in a weird way its a message in itself.

Rule#6 Make it in Person Preferably

Hey I have been cowardly about this myself and sent a text message instead. The in person breakup is hard but it gives closure. It allows you both to see its over and allows you to move on. If your unable to do this in person the next best is a phone call. It shows respect for the person you were involved with and that it comes from you. If you end it through other measures especially if you will see the person frequently after the fact. My own experience with this was dating a co-worker and I was dumped via Facebook message. Only to see the guy 3 hours later. For the in person breakup here are a few things to note:
– Do not bring gifts
– Know what your going to say be decisive and clear no room for questions
– do it at a place the person being dumped is comfortable
– Being Kleenex.

If you follow the keys above it will still suck but It will feel better in the end.

Not a rule an unexpected landmark

Wow I’m not sure this is a landmark I wanted but 100 Breakups in 15years of dating officially was officially hit last night. I was what felt like led on for 3 days promised it would be made up to me. Then I get brought cake and broken up with the day before my sisters birthday. Hmm note to self new rule don’t bring a gift to a breakup and not before something important to the other person.
I have Learned a lot over each of those years and you would think this would make me cold. It hasn’t made me bitter yet I’m just determined to find someone to help complement my life not complete it. I seem to be finding men that suddenly change their minds when I try to get to know them better. It feels like the world still has such a focus on you have to find a wife or husband and settle down. When someone doesn’t meet your expectations its over. I think that needs to change you can’t expect anyone to do that everyone has faults. Maybe I’m just meant to be chronically single so other people can learn from my Breakups. So the writing continues and maybe a publisher someday.