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AN extension to Rule #4 BE HONEST

Well maybe I am just crazy at this point.  I was seeing a guy that pointed out a picture of another girl he was dating and called her his 14-year-old niece. OF course being the trusting and DEFINITELY not in a committed relationship I go by that.  When Establishing a relationship its okay to see other people you need to be honest about this okay well maybe not who you are seeing but if caught looking at photos of the other girl don’t call them a family member.  A mutual friend of mine and the girl brought her up in conversation so of course I asked a question. He stuck to his guns on it so I asked the girl. AM I Crazy for calling the guy on this and telling the girl of his lie who as it turns out is a Single mom in her mid 20’s?

I didn’t feel it was wrong and if given the chance I would probably do it the same way all over again. Maybe being my age and not wanting anyone to get hurt this may have been seen as meddling but I can’t sit idly by and see someone else get hurt by lies. I have this simple belief of HONESTY. So when did this become such a rarity to be straight with someone?



Rule #7 Dont bring Gifts

Now Boys and girls this may seem pretty straight forward to not do. Its kind of like saying im free woohoo here is a gift to celebrate my freedom from you. Yes everyone has a different ending some may even exchange gifts but do you really want to look at that watch or jacket and think about that person?

My own experience with this was quiet confusing  I was brought cake. But hell it was cake. How can one say no to cake? If it had candles I might have been more concerned. A worse or better depending on your viewpoint is a story a girlfriend of mine shared. The girl had cheated on the guy (which I don’t agree with but stuff happens) he found out about it before she could tell him.  I’m guessing he felt hurt and devised a romantic evening to breakup with her. This involved flower petals and cut flowers leading to her car ending  with a note that I don’t feel comfortable repeating the exact words. So I will just say he told her to get lost in a not very nice way. This may have forever ruined flowers for her however; Giving  cut flowers upon breaking up with them kind of makes sense though in a crazy way. Think about the flowers are going to die anyways just like the relationship did,so in a weird way its a message in itself.

Rule#6 Make it in Person Preferably

Hey I have been cowardly about this myself and sent a text message instead. The in person breakup is hard but it gives closure. It allows you both to see its over and allows you to move on. If your unable to do this in person the next best is a phone call. It shows respect for the person you were involved with and that it comes from you. If you end it through other measures especially if you will see the person frequently after the fact. My own experience with this was dating a co-worker and I was dumped via Facebook message. Only to see the guy 3 hours later. For the in person breakup here are a few things to note:
– Do not bring gifts
– Know what your going to say be decisive and clear no room for questions
– do it at a place the person being dumped is comfortable
– Being Kleenex.

If you follow the keys above it will still suck but It will feel better in the end.