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23 Life Lessons You Get From Working At A Restaurant


Rule #8 Don’t Be clingy unless acting like clingwrap in the bedroom

Hey We all get this way sometimes when something bad happens or when establishing a relationship.  The ONLY acceptable clinginess is acting like cling wrap or playtime with cling wrap in certain areas of a relationship. We want the person we care about to know what the firetruck is going on in our lives. This can be seen as creepy and trust me I have been on both sides of this so I know all too well. I don’t have a story per say for this one at this point but I do have a few pointers.  near the end of a relationship we want to hang on because we don’t want it to end but this can actually facilitate is failure because of the lack of mystery.  I was in a relationship for 6 years and it came to a point where I was spending all my time at home with him and I was getting frustrated.

When he or she has done something you disagree with don’t just jump to their side of things. YOU ARE entitled to your own opinion and if they disagree with you then so be it. That is part of life you are not always going to agree with each other. Its how you work with the disagreements that establish how your relationship goes.

DONT spend every waking hour texting or calling each other. While this may seem sweet at first it is way too much when getting to know each other. While life is short there is plenty of time to get to know one another unless I guess you have a terminal illness than by all means go for it.Go get yourself a hobby be outspoken in local politics find a part-time job go back to school find something to occupy some of that time. Also if they are worth your time they might actually join you at some point in these activities well minus working at the same place. Also if in a Relationship this can go one of two ways it can make you stronger or it can kill it.  With mine it killed it because I fond something I loved more than him and life itself MUSIC.

So remember to not lose you and if you have lost yourself take a good hard look at what you want.

Rule#2 When your partner asks for space note:not always a break-up

Yes that’s right asking for space can mean numerous things. Girls and guys always take this as a break up when it isn’t always it depends on how you handle it. For Myself I did not handle it well. For one space always means until they contact you and may not have a time. You might worry a lot but they’ve got stuff going on just get busy, take a trip, go spend a day having fun like a kid. Mine resulted in a situation I’m still confused by but actions speak louder than words I think it ended with me being dumped by his friend. I can laugh about it now even though he still has my lingerie. Don’t know what he will need it for unless he enjoys cross dressing. The bottom line leave your partner alone when they ask you to. You might meet someone new and that’s okay you don’t need to feel guilty.

Rule #1 Dont ignore/delete your partner

Okay this one has to be the hardest for anyone to go through the not knowing what is going on,being left in the dark. Being suddenly removed from someones life with no explanation. Of course it hurts because you just want to know whats going on. Now everyone goes through their stuff and sometimes those that care can be annoying be your entitled to say “leave me alone” be sure to give a time frame or add until I contact you because not everyone gets  leave me alone.DO NOT just delete someone from messenger or Facebook without saying something even a note a text really anything with today’s technology ,it’s entirely possible to let anyone know whats going on without being face to face. being suddenly deleted hurts its like tearing someones heart out and shredding it in front of them. If it helps delete their number contact information put away anything that reminds you of them. This one is the worst breakup the best way to deal with it is to just live your life get busy find a new hobby, start writing anything. Remember two things its okay to grieve a relationship just don’t let it interfere with your life and  if you meet someone new it is okay to move on life has a funny way of throwing things like that at you.

What I’m trying to do

Upon my most recent breakup I decided that was enough that I would help others not have to go through so much hurt. I wanted to gather a book of wisdom ways that breakups could be handled better so it doesn’t hurt as much. Hey I’m not saying people (including me) were not at fault for causing some of it everyone has been on one side or the other. Heck my first Break up rule I ever learnt was not to laugh at someone while breaking up with them no matter how ridiculous they look . I was at something with the guy and I was seeing at the time and he decided to put bunny ears on for a random reason. Now the details of why I was breaking up with him are a bit fuzzy but because he was wearing the bunny ears as I was breaking up with him  I started laughing and he broke down in tears, making it worse than it needed to be. So if you have stories feel free to share because I cant have gone through every kind of breakup out there.